– Emily Brontë
Love is like the wild rose-briar,
Friendship like the holly-tree—
The holly is dark when the rose-briar blooms
But which will bloom most constantly?
The wild rose-briar is sweet in spring,
Its summer blossoms scent the air;
Yet wait till winter comes again
And who will call the wild-briar fair?
Then scorn the silly rose-wreath now
And deck thee with the holly’s sheen,
That when December blights thy brow
He still may leave thy garland green.
When it doesn’t work out
There’s plenty of Christian literature written on singleness, dating and marriage. There’s plenty written about why relationships don’t work out when Christians date non-Christians, or how people get hurt in casual dating where there’s no intention of marriage. But only recently did I stumble across an article about breakups in “good, Christ-exalting relationships”.
Relationships and love may be celebrated more in the church than anywhere else because we (rightly) love marriage so much. Unfortunately, these same convictions often make breakups an uncomfortable conversation — at best embarrassing and at worst scandalous or humiliating.
I wish I got to read about this a lot earlier. It’s always going to be one of life’s mysteries (for me at least) how some relationships continue and others don’t when there are so many differences, mistakes, misunderstandings and shortfalls from both parties in every relationship.
Picking up on Valentine’s
No relationship? No worries. Here’s a new pick-up line (bold, but acceptably so) I learnt today. Ask a stranger what book they’re reading. They’ll probably give a brief answer or show you the cover. Just when they’re about to start reading again, say awkwardly, “is that weird to ask?” and they might oblige you with some small talk. Use that as a segue to “oh, by the way my name is…”
Then say you better go and meet your friend, or whatever you were intending to do in the first place. And leave. After all, you’re not a creeper who hangs around in public places just so you can chat up randoms, right? Come back a few minutes later, and just as an afterthought – “hey, you sound like an interesting person, want to have coffee sometime?”